It’s hard to believe that this election will finally come to an end tomorrow. It feels like it has lasted 300 years. Sorry Chicago Cubs, but your 108 years is nothing compared to how long this election has been. I would say I’m kidding and that I’m just being dramatic but I think we all feel like that.
I think we’ve also all struggled more in this election than probably any other. For some people it’s been who to vote for, for some it’s been the candidates themselves, and for almost everybody, if someone is voting for “the other person” you struggle with wondering how/why?
How could someone see my candidate as the worst when his or her candidate is the worst? Are we in High School or are we actual adults voting for our next president? Sometimes it’s hard to tell. I’ve definitely fallen into the camp of struggling with wondering how people can actually vote for Trump. I still don’t get it and I never will.
I’ve also struggled with how to put those questions aside and continue on with relationships and friendships as normal. When all I want to do is scream and shout HOW COULD YOU? I don’t want to ignore this massive elephant with these people because I want them to explain to me with out right facts that have nothing to do with Hillary why they think he’s fit for office. I need to know what the good they see in him is and not the bad they see in her that I feel has so badly blinded them to the truth of what a vile human he is.
That’s not to say that I don’t respect a person’s right to choose who gets their vote or why they are voting for that person but it doesn’t mean it makes it easy. It’s not easy to see people that you love and respect vote for someone like him and this election more than any other that I’ve voted in I have had a hard time coming to terms with that. I don’t know how to accept their view when it is so wildly different from my own.
I also know that the tables are turned and a lot of those people are looking at me wondering how I can vote for Hillary. How can I vote for someone who’s a so called crook? They probably think I’m ill informed or that I’m just voting for her because she’s a woman. I have my reasons for voting for her and I respect the fact that not everyone likes her. I’ve said time and time again she is not perfect and she’s not an innocent angel.
She’s not a racist, homophobic, sexist, demagogue though. So while I can admit she isn’t a saint at least I know there is some good in her. We’ve seen it throughout the years. I promise it’s there. That’s why I have a hard time reconciling my relationships with people that I know that are voting for Trump. For the most part I respect their views on the world and while I wonder how they can be so different from mine I don’t normally begrudge the different way we see things. In this case though, this is different. This is uncharted territory and I don’t know how to deal with it.
I do my best to not bring it up though. I do my best to just let people feel how they will and I’ve never ever let political differences interfere with any of my relationships in the past and I truly hope they never will. So now I’m left asking myself how do I accept the people that I love that have voted for him? The short answer is: you just do. You just accept it and move on.
Mostly because I feel like if anything Trump would love to see his ideals rip people apart. He would love to see that he created and us vs. them thing and I won’t let it happen to me. Because it’s not us vs. them. It’s me and you. The people that I know. The people I love. Forever and ever. Whoever wins this election tomorrow I’ll still love you just the same come Wednesday. Please understand if I still struggle to understand how you voted the way you did but I promise to never let it matter. I kind of had a laugh when I thought of that phrase “I love you but I don’t like you right now.” It sort of really does fit because I’m sure everyone sort of feels that whether you’re voting for him or for her deep down you sort of don’t like the people who are voting a different way. And that’s okay. I get it. Let that love stay though. Because Love. Trumps. Hate. So instead of hating those who have voted for Trump I’m choosing to believe that the good that I know inside of you will trump the hideous things he stands for and the hideous things he has done.
Thanksgiving is coming and I fear for the ruined meals that will happen because politics will get brought up. The divisiveness between families is more real than in any other place and it’s sad. So I think the best we can do is not let it destroy us. As hard as it is to be the bigger person and continue to love unconditionally even when you don’t understand their point of view this is the time to do it. I know it’s hard to find pants when you’re 11 feet tall but it’s worth it. No matter what happens tomorrow just remember that your loved ones matter. At the end of the day, if you’re unhappy that they voted for someone who stands for racism, hatred, sexism, and just plain cruelness then let your love be louder. Show them what it is to love and treat others as you would want to be treated. I think we’d find the world a lot better place if we all loved a little harder and a little louder.